“Abortion is a women’s issue.”
“Being pro-choice is a woman’s right.”
I have heard this argument all my life. The Feminist Ezine describes their position well in the title of this article, “A Woman’s Choice: The Right to Privacy and the Right to Choose” (http://www.feministezine.com/feminist/prochoice/A-Womans-Choice.html). It’s interesting to note that nowhere in the article is the man mentioned.
If you believe that the abortion debate is a dead issue, statistics show that’s simply not true. In the 2012 presidential race, over $37 million was spent on abortion advertising – $29 million by Democratic groups, $8 million by Republicans (http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/election-2012/wp/2012/11/14/revenge-of-planned-parenthood/).
Last week I had the privilege of attending a banquet hosted by a local pregnancy support center (http://www.firstchoicenc.org/) . They shared the following: 81% of women who aborted said they would not have aborted if the guy had been supportive. I can’t get that statistic out of my head:
81% of women who aborted said they would not have aborted if the guy had been supportive.
The theme of the evening was “Guys for Life”. Here’s the point, while there has been a movement to prove that the right to choose should be a woman’s right, men have failed to take responsibility for the children they that they are responsible for creating.
This is not just a woman’s issue. This is a man crisis.
We at male2man are trying to help men understand what it means to be a man, and how to be a man. Genesis 1-3 teaches that one of the essential elements of manhood is responsibility! In the Garden of Eden, God created Adam first, then Eve. God specifically told Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Gen 2.17). However, a few verses later, we see that Adam passively abdicated his responsibility to protect his wife. He watched the serpent persuade her to eat fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and then Adam ate too. When God approaches, He holds Adam primarily responsible. Again Adam fails by first blaming his wife and then goes so far as to blame God for providing her (Gen 3.12)!
In hindsight, Adam should have first taken responsibility when the serpent approached Eve. Adam should have stepped in and protected his wife. Second, when confronted by God, Adam should have taken full responsibility for eating the fruit. He failed to do so. Adam’s failures in Genesis 3 led to his expulsion from the Garden of Eden.
We, as men, need to accept responsibility for the children we bear. The abortion issue would be a dramatically different conversation if we simply accepted responsibility for our actions.
Any male can get a female pregnant. It takes a man to raise a child.
This is not a women’s issue. A woman should not have to choose alone. An unexpected pregnancy is not something that any woman should have to face alone. Again, 81% of women who aborted said they would not have aborted if the guy had been supportive! If you are a guy and find yourself in an unexpected pregnancy, be supportive.
Accept responsibility. Be a man.
For more information, see http://guysforlife.org/index.htm